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DO speak to an attorney who knows how to protect fathers’ rights as early as possible in your divorce proceeding; planning could be vital to your case.
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DO be honest with (and don't hide anything from) your attorney.
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DO involve yourself in every aspect of your child's life.
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DO go to teacher conferences and talk with your child’s teachers frequently.
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DO go to your child's doctor appointments and talk to the doctors and dentists about your child.
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DO encourage your child to have a relationship with both parents.
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DO spend the time to take a parenting class; you might just learn something about your child.
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DO learn to become a good listener when your child speaks to you.
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DO pay your support payments in a timely manner if you are required to pay support.
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DO follow the orders the court makes even if you don't like them.
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DO prepare yourself for court. Know what you are going to be asked and what you are going to answer. Your lawyer can help prepare you.
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DO provide your attorney with all of the facts, documents and names of witnesses that might be able to help you.
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DO be compassionate and empathetic to your child and his or her needs and place them above your own.
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DO keep a daily journal for your attorney about the issues involved in your matter.
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DO NOT move out of the home unless the court orders you to do so.
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DO NOT talk too much to your spouse or the other parent about your legal plans.
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DO NOT be afraid to report acts of violence or threats made against you; call the police and obtain a restraining order if necessary.
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DO NOT commit any act of violence, make any threat of violence, or allow a confrontation to escalate. Be quiet and go for a walk instead.
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DO NOT settle for an agreement you disagree with.
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DO NOT conceal information or documents from your attorney under any circumstances.
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DO NOT discard any kind of records once you know you will be going to court. NEVER discard proof of payment for support as long as you live.
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DO NOT wait too long before seeking help. Certain matters require quick action or it will be too late for anyone to help you.
